I think this is a topic that deserves far more open conversation. We already see many women writing about menopause ,naturally, but I’d love to see more men sharing their perspective as well. In a relationship, a marriage, or any long‑term partnership, menopause affects both people. The woman goes through the physical and emotional changes, but the man witnesses all of it, feels the shifts in the dynamic, and is impacted in his own way. It inevitably reflects on him too.
We definitely need more male voices in the space yes. We need more education, so that men understand what it is that is happening and so they can know enough to not take things personally. Ultimately, the couple need to know enough to move from person centered solutions to couple focused ones.
I appreciate you guiding men through this period of their partner’s lives. I was so angry with everything, my poor husband got the full force of that anger. Luckily, he’s a patient man & I’m now on HRT or mad cow gel as I refer to it!
Thank you. I write for the me of 10 yrs ago. It’s a “If I known then what I know now” situation. If one man has an aha moment and stops feeling everything is personal then I’ll feel that the writing has all been worth it.
It’s really amazing what having your hormones balanced does.
The Coming of Rage is an accurate description for some women.
I think that’s the hardest part of this life stage transition for men. To stop being an outside observer and join the team. To learn that sometimes all that is needed is to sit, listen and believe.
It is a valuable reminder that menopause is not just an individual experience, but a process that the couple goes through together. Support and patience can strengthen the relationship at precisely these moments. I like the focus on partnership rather than on "fixing."
Yes. I’m very much in support of “us” focused solution building rather than individual focus. Each has to do their own work on themselves too but being a team means they can face things from the same side.
Thank you for sharing this and for highlighting what so many women hope for during perimenopause and post-menopause: to be listened to without being fixed.
What really stands out is the emphasis on understanding change without defensiveness. That’s rare. So many couples get stuck not because they don’t love each other, but because they don’t understand what’s happening physiologically and emotionally during this transition. When men are willing to learn, regulate themselves, and stay present instead of offering clichés or solutions, it changes everything.
Interestingly, inside my Next Level Women’s Collective this month, the guest speaker is a husband having this exact kind of real conversation about what he misunderstood, what made him defensive, and what finally made it click. Bringing men into the dialogue in this way feels incredibly important. Women’s nervous systems don’t heal in isolation; they heal in safe, responsive relationships.
The more men are willing to engage in conversations like this, the more partnerships can move from tension and confusion to clarity and connection. Writing like yours helps make that possible. Thank you.
I truly appreciate your feedback. I really do believe that the first hurdle to overcome for men is not taking it personally. That not everything their partner is experiencing is because of them.
Learning that only one in four men attribute the changes they see to the menopause transition has really driven this work for both my substack and my book.
I write for the me of 10 yrs ago when I didn’t know these things and I write for men experiencing it now.
If, through my writing one man makes that connection and one couple connects as a team then it’s all worth it.
I think this is a topic that deserves far more open conversation. We already see many women writing about menopause ,naturally, but I’d love to see more men sharing their perspective as well. In a relationship, a marriage, or any long‑term partnership, menopause affects both people. The woman goes through the physical and emotional changes, but the man witnesses all of it, feels the shifts in the dynamic, and is impacted in his own way. It inevitably reflects on him too.
We definitely need more male voices in the space yes. We need more education, so that men understand what it is that is happening and so they can know enough to not take things personally. Ultimately, the couple need to know enough to move from person centered solutions to couple focused ones.
I appreciate you guiding men through this period of their partner’s lives. I was so angry with everything, my poor husband got the full force of that anger. Luckily, he’s a patient man & I’m now on HRT or mad cow gel as I refer to it!
Thank you. I write for the me of 10 yrs ago. It’s a “If I known then what I know now” situation. If one man has an aha moment and stops feeling everything is personal then I’ll feel that the writing has all been worth it.
It’s really amazing what having your hormones balanced does.
The Coming of Rage is an accurate description for some women.
It really is nice to have a man write this side. And it's true, when you're married, you go through menopause together 💞
I think that’s the hardest part of this life stage transition for men. To stop being an outside observer and join the team. To learn that sometimes all that is needed is to sit, listen and believe.
It is a valuable reminder that menopause is not just an individual experience, but a process that the couple goes through together. Support and patience can strengthen the relationship at precisely these moments. I like the focus on partnership rather than on "fixing."
Yes. I’m very much in support of “us” focused solution building rather than individual focus. Each has to do their own work on themselves too but being a team means they can face things from the same side.
Here for it! Thank you. Illuminating.
Love that you’re getting the conversation going, Simon, and building awareness along the way.
I’m definitely trying to do that. Men definitely are playing catch up at the moment.
Thank you for sharing this and for highlighting what so many women hope for during perimenopause and post-menopause: to be listened to without being fixed.
What really stands out is the emphasis on understanding change without defensiveness. That’s rare. So many couples get stuck not because they don’t love each other, but because they don’t understand what’s happening physiologically and emotionally during this transition. When men are willing to learn, regulate themselves, and stay present instead of offering clichés or solutions, it changes everything.
Interestingly, inside my Next Level Women’s Collective this month, the guest speaker is a husband having this exact kind of real conversation about what he misunderstood, what made him defensive, and what finally made it click. Bringing men into the dialogue in this way feels incredibly important. Women’s nervous systems don’t heal in isolation; they heal in safe, responsive relationships.
The more men are willing to engage in conversations like this, the more partnerships can move from tension and confusion to clarity and connection. Writing like yours helps make that possible. Thank you.
If interested, more on The Next Level Women’s Collective here: https://sarahsecorjonesteam844f9.myclickfunnels.com/order-form--93d88
I truly appreciate your feedback. I really do believe that the first hurdle to overcome for men is not taking it personally. That not everything their partner is experiencing is because of them.
Learning that only one in four men attribute the changes they see to the menopause transition has really driven this work for both my substack and my book.
I write for the me of 10 yrs ago when I didn’t know these things and I write for men experiencing it now.
If, through my writing one man makes that connection and one couple connects as a team then it’s all worth it.